Unconditional Love When People Let You Down (Boundaries & Bad Behavior) | #91
Unconditional Love When People Let You Down (Boundaries & Bad Behavior) | #91 - Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn 🌞
Unconditional love does not mean tolerating bad behavior. In this Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn, Dawn Super explains the crucial difference between loving someone and accepting repeated harm, manipulation, or broken agreements. This dose is for anyone who’s been told they’re “not loving enough” for holding boundaries—and is ready to choose self-respect without guilt.
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Unconditional love is not unconditional acceptance of bad behavior. This is the Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn, number 91—videos designed to expand your thinking.
This video is for anyone being told they’re not loving unconditionally because they’re objecting to something someone is doing—whether it’s a romantic partner, parent, child, or anyone else.
Welcome back to my Happy Matters Collective. If you’re new here, thanks for giving us a try.
Why do we want to learn this? Because love is often used as manipulation. Hard truth.
Whether it’s not doing their fair share, going against their word, or repeating behaviors you’ve already said are not okay—eventually it turns into, “If you loved me, you would.”
Unfortunately, this was a recurring theme in my life because I didn’t understand boundaries until I was in my 50s. I knew about them. I’d heard of them. I had no idea what they actually were.
Even now, sometimes I still need my tools to remind me.
For me, this started decades ago in a serious relationship where we lived together and they weren’t doing what they said they would. The burden fell on me, and I became resentful.
What I didn’t know back then is that resentment is designed to get you to act—to speak up, to hold boundaries. After that, it’s you feeding it, and it feeding on you.
I talk about resentment a lot because I lived there for a long time. And it’s not good for you. If someone repeatedly does not do what they say they’re going to do, a boundary doesn’t force them to change. That’s not how boundaries work. A boundary doesn’t govern other people. It governs you.
So what does that look like in real life?
“If you yell at me one more time, I’m going to leave.”
“If you forget your wallet again, I’m not making dinner plans with you anymore.”
“The next time we make plans, I’ll wait three minutes. If you’re not there, I’m going without you.”
If you need help figuring out how to apply a boundary in a specific situation, look it up. Comment and ask me. Ask a neighbor. Don’t stay in uncomfortable situations just because you can’t see a way out.
I never could have imagined I’d be where I am now at literally any other point in my life. When I say I’ve had a rough go at this life thing, I’m not exaggerating. I’ve spent the last 14 years unconditionally loving myself so that I no longer feel like I have to tolerate bad behavior from anyone—for any reason.
Life is too short. And happy matters.
When I was younger, I worked at a domestic violence center as a facilities manager. I learned that the average woman leaves seven times before she leaves for good.
Whether it’s a partner taking advantage of you, a child taking you for granted, a family member breaking agreements, or a friend forgetting that friendship goes both ways—it’s easy to give in, avoid conflict, and “keep the peace.”
What we often don’t realize is that doing that is exactly what destroys everyone’s peace. Get on your own side. Stay there. If you need help, ask for it. You never know where life will take you.
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If you struggle to hold inner peace when others around you are having hard feelings, check out What Happens If I Don’t Participate in the Emotions of Others, below.
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