How to hide your happy #69 Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn

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How to hide your happy #69 Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn (emotional regulation, neurospicy)

It's Thanksgiving in the USA today and I'm giving out some tips on how to be around other people who might not be happy without letting it drain your batteries. Stick around to the end for my secret magic way to keep your emotions regulated all the time.

While learning and teaching my philosophy of Happy Matters, I had to learn how to deal with when my happy just wasn't really appropriate. Like business meetings, funerals, witnessing an argument, being involved in an argument. This isn't masking. This is controlling the environment in your cockpit.

Two things before I go on. I know from 15 years of experience, when I'm in a good mood, life is easier. And number two, something I just discovered this year. Hard feels like anger, shame, and guilt only last naturally for 15 seconds. They're the body's alarm system throwing gang signs - let's get ready to rumble. After 15 seconds, it's you feeding the emotion and hurting yourself.

Okay? So if I don't want to make my own life harder, if I don't want to swim in hard feels just cuz the environment I'm in dictates I should from some societal perception, then I need to stay chill and positive in my own mind.

And that can look like you just keeping a neutral look on your face while you're thinking about what you're going to have for dinner. Observing the other people around you and feeling good that you can just keep your mind a nice place to be. Using that inner strength to comfort a friend because love is exponential and it'll help you both feel better.

Being happy isn't throwing confetti - well, it can be - but being happy is sitting on a sunny porch in your mind instead of sitting under the porch because you feel the situation calls for darkness. From content to ecstatic, happy heals. It nurtures. It grows when you water it. It is life. Happy matters, especially when things are hard.

Okay, so here's my number one magic trick for helping you regulate your emotions no matter what setting you're in. I have chanting on my phone. It's 432 hertz and it sounds like peace just going straight into your ears and you'd never know. I could be listening to that right now and no one would know it. I keep it low enough that I can talk over it and people can talk to me, but it's hidden here in my ear under my hair.

And if I'm in a particularly difficult situation, I might throw on my super-positive playlist and just have that help raise the vibe while I'm dealing with whatever I'm looking at.

I've had four decades of sleep deprivation and regulating my emotions is a part-time job because of that. They use sleep deprivation to torture prisoners because it works. It really deeply affects the mind. And if you don't get on your own side and don't teach yourself these ways to help you through, you can find yourself in misery for 41 years just like I did.

If you want to go deeper about being around other people and staying regulated, check out the comments for “What happens if I don't participate in the emotions of others.” I used to be around a lot of miserable people and I did an experiment where I practiced not letting anyone else's emotions affect me - and then I did a video about the results.

Happy Thanksgiving.

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