Backsliding – Protecting yourself from yourself | #54
Backsliding – Protecting yourself from yourself | #54 Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn 🌞
Personal growth isn’t linear—and backsliding doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. In Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn #54, Dawn Super explores why knowing what needs to change isn’t enough, and how practice—not perfection—is what creates real transformation. This post looks at the stages of learning, emotional regulation, and the humor and compassion required to protect yourself from old patterns while new ones take root. You’ll learn why forgetting is part of healing, how gentle reminders help, and why becoming someone new takes time, repetition, and grace.
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Backsliding – Protecting yourself from yourself – Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn #54
I had a really great meeting with a client where she finally realized that knowing what needs to change is not enough and that everyone backslides until they’ve practiced the thing enough to become different. I want to share how one simple perspective shift helped me accept that sometimes I get in my own way – and that’s ok.
Back when I was first diving into personal growth, I kept getting stuck between Step 2 and Step 3 of the stages of learning - identifying strategies and practicing them.
I would notice something needed to change. For example: being kinder to others when they woke me up. Having narcolepsy, I’m often emotionally dysregulated – but that’s not a free license to be a jerk to people. So, I would identify a strategy to try, practice it once or twice. Then, someone would wake me up… and I’d forget 🤷.
The Counting Crows have a song that helped me with this. The lyric goes: How’m I gonna keep myself away from me?
That’s exactly what I needed to do – keep myself ‘now’ away from old-me’s way of thinking and doing. Ironically, just singing the lyric in my head helped me a lot.
Then that morphed into, Have yourself a nice steamy mug of STFU 🤭
I would say that to myself EVERY morning as I made my coffee. Reminding me that I needed to keep myself away from others as much as myself… until my dopamine came online.
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