Are You Lonely? Here's How I Stop Feeling Alone 🌞

Feeling alone can hurt in a way that’s hard to explain, especially when you’re surrounded by people and still feel unwanted. In this Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn, Dawn Super explores what it really means to be alone, why so many of us fear abandonment, and how that fear quietly shapes our thoughts, behaviors, and relationships. This post is for anyone who struggles with self-worth, feels unchosen, or worries they’re “too much” for others. You’ll learn why every feeling comes from inside of you, how learning to like yourself changes everything, and how being on your own side can transform loneliness into stability, confidence, and peace.

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You’re never alone cuz you got you. This is the Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn, videos designed to expand your thinking.

This video is about being alone and not liking it.

I used to be very needy — middle child, picked on as a kid. Felt like my parents didn’t want me. Hard truth. Then add one bad relationship after another. It’s very difficult to turn around 41 years of not feeling wanted by anyone other than my kids.

But I was a product of my circumstances, just like we all are. And once I dug into the things I didn’t like about myself, really worked on them like it was my job, things started to change. People laughed, people showed up, and the dance of life became more of a waltz and less of a mosh pit.

I can tell you that life when you like yourself — when you’re on your own side — is vastly different from when you don’t and when you’re not.

They say what you think about you bring about. And when you find yourself in a place where you fear being abandoned, you are thinking about being abandoned. And it manifests in ugly social skills and neediness and clinginess. And that’s not attractive. And it will make you end up feeling like you’ve been abandoned again if people don’t want to be around someone who’s acting like I used to.

Every feeling you’ve ever had came from inside of you. All those times someone made you feel bad or someone made you feel good — it wasn’t them making you anything. It was you choosing to respond to the words and actions of the other person that elicited those feelings from inside of you all by yourself.

And that was kind of a hard thing for me to hear. You mean I’ve been torturing myself this whole time? And yeah… until I taught myself strategies to not torture myself, I continued to.

Once I looked at myself like an island — like, okay, if all my emotions are self-contained and all my thoughts are self-contained, this is a universe of one. It’s an island, and people can come and visit your island, but they can’t ever move in. It’s a one-person meatsuit.

The same is true for all of us. We’re all alone — just sometimes we’re alone together.

If you feel like you’re continuously abandoned, if you feel like people don’t like you, if you feel unworthy of friendships or relationships, that is a lie that your brain is telling you. And you can work with it. You can find strategies to overcome it.

That was me. I did not know how to human for a very long time. And I did an experiment: what happens if I don’t need people to like me? If I don’t do anything to influence or make people like me? I did it for a month and recorded the results in an experiment, and the link is in the comments to the video.

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