Talk Yourself Through It: The Life Skill That Builds Confidence and Calms Anxiety | Self-Coaching for "I'm Not Enough" Feelings | #149

Learn how to talk yourself through intimidating situations with resilience coach Dawn Super's self-coaching strategies for building confidence and managing anxiety. This guide is for anyone feeling insecure, not confident enough, or experiencing "I'm not enough" feelings - whether in the middle of a stressful situation or dealing with prolonged self-doubt.

Discover the power of narrating your actions, reassuring yourself through challenges, and being your own best friend when anxiety strikes. Includes real examples like driving on LA freeways ("I'm between the lines and I'm okay for speed"), helping her son through first-day-of-work stomach aches, and understanding why anxiety and excitement feel similar.

Learn the framework "feel your feels but keep your feet out of the fire" and why your thoughts create your reality - negative self-talk creates physical symptoms like stomach aches and sore throats. Perfect for anyone facing new responsibilities, going somewhere unfamiliar, or needing to calm their nervous system during stressful moments.

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Talk Yourself Through It: A Life Skill for Building Confidence

Talking myself through stuff is a life skill that gets me through a lot of situations.

This video is for anyone feeling insecure, not confident, or some other "I'm not enough" type of feel. Whether you're in the middle of a situation or if it's been going on for a while.

This is the Daily Dose of Dawn at Dawn - videos designed to expand your thinking.

So why do we want to think about this? Because if you've faced a situation like this before, you'll know better what to do next time. And if you never have, you'll be prepared.

Whether it's driving, going somewhere new, or taking on new responsibilities.

Welcome in to my daily dosers to this conversation about showing up for yourself.

It can be intimidating to do anything for the first time. It's also stressful to do things you're not a pro at yet.

A great example of this for me is driving on the freeway here in Los Angeles. It's intimidating. People have been shot. Accidents are expensive. People go 75 to 100 miles an hour easy.

When I feel intimidated by road conditions - especially the wall when they were doing construction - I keep myself in alignment and in confidence of my driving by reassuring myself: "I'm between the lines and I'm okay for speed."

And when you're on the wall like that and everyone is going very fast, it's intimidating because if you overcorrect, you can be flipping out in front of a bunch of other cars. And if you go too slow, you're impeding the flow of traffic, which can also cause an accident.

So whenever I get into a situation that's a little bit anxious, I do the talking in my own head for me.

"You can do this. It's okay. You're doing the right thing. This is the way it's supposed to be. Everything is going great."

And it helps you keep your nervous system calm.

As a field-tested resilience coach, my feelings used to eat me alive. And then I started repeating the phrase: "Feel your feels, but keep your feet out of the fire."

And what does that look like in real life?

So my son got a new job, and he was getting up the morning of his new job and started feeling sick to his stomach.

So I encouraged him to have a conversation with himself:

"Of course you're nervous. Of course you're anxious. You're excited. This is a new thing for you. Anxiety and excitement feel very similar to each other."

So talk yourself through it.

Narrate what you're doing as you make your lunch. Reassure yourself you're qualified for the job. You know you can do it. That everything is going to be great. That "you got this" - and the stomach ache will go away.

This is why it's so important to understand the concept of "your thoughts create your reality."

Because even if you're not consciously thinking "I'm sick to my stomach," you could be consciously thinking "I'm really nervous about this new job."

And nervous equals stomach ache.

So if you hold your own hand and talk yourself through the experience, you can get the nervous jitters, the stomach ache, the sore throat from being afraid to say the thing - you can get those symptoms to go away by showing up for yourself.

Don't take my word for it. Give it a try the next time you're facing some sort of adversity.

Pay attention to what's going on inside your head and talk yourself through it as if you were your friend.

What would you say to your friend in this situation? Be your own best friend and say those things.

Your thoughts create your reality - including your stomach aches.

In my workbook How to Be on Your Own Side, Day 3 asks: Are you your own best friend? Because if you're not talking to yourself the way you'd talk to a friend, you're making everything harder.

Learn to hold your own hand through the hard stuff.

Get it here: https://HowToBeOnYourOwnSide.com

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