Weekly Digest Doses 6 - 10
“Turn your mind into a playground and life gets a lot easier.” - Dawn Super
Weekly Daily Dose of Dawn Digest - Episodes 6 - 10
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Get your brain to give you some of the good stuff - Daily Dose 6
Happy Birthday! Oh, it's not your birthday?
Well, I have a feel-good gift for you anyway!
As someone living with narcolepsy, I often have trouble regulating my emotions - which means I can get stuck in hard feels and have to work my way through them.
One way I do that is taking the focus off of myself.
I heard a Deepak Chopra video once that said, "Give a gift to everyone you meet." and I thought, I'll go broke if I do that lol.
He continued - a gift can be anything - a flower, a compliment, your mom's tuna noodle casserole recipe - whatever.
The sciencey reason behind this is that GIVING releases dopamine (the reward chemical) and oxytocin (the love hormone) which both help you feel good!
Even better? Your brain doesn’t link giving with spending money. So if you give with pure intention - like “Wow, I love the color of that top!” your brain gets the feel-good boost even if they don’t say thanks..
So, Happy Birthday! And if the day this is posted is actually your birthday and you live in the USA - comment! I have a real gift for you 😉
Self-Care simplified. You are worth it! Daily Dose 7
Self-care is not sitting at the salon eating bon bons.
Self care is simply - taking care of your self.
Like, did you eat today?
Do your plants get more water than you do?
What's on the menu for your soul today?
Have you got some self-soothing for any hard feels with a side of encouragement on deck for you?
Some socializing to keep your mental health good - even virtually has good feels?
Giving yourself grace, connecting with your spiritual side - whatever that looks like?
Dropping some pennies or bennies into savings, reviewing your budget?
Updating your resume?
Those are ALL self-care.
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Dig into what is really involved in the six areas of self-care so you can learn to take care of your whole self. #selfcareishealthcare #beyondpamperping #mindsetstrategy #happymatters #DailyDoseofDawn
Overcoming toxic positivity - WHY you want to do that - Daily Dose 8
Tomorrow I’m going to talk about how to overcome toxic positivity and today I want to talk about why you want to do that.
If you’ve watched any of my content, you know I’m a firm believer in my philosophy of happy matters.
That means that you remember happy matters, look around to see the happy things that are already around you, and you give yourself permission to let those happy things in.
Toxic positivity is the buzzword given to conversations that exist between someone who doesn’t have empathy and someone who has a problem.
As an example, people say, ‘Oh, it could be worse,’ is toxic positivity. But, in order for that statement to be toxic, the person they’re saying it to needs to feel like they don’t really care about what the other person is going through.
And, sure… you have every right to be offended when someone dismisses you but what you might not realize is sitting in that offense, where you feel bad about something someone else said, it hurts your body. Literally. Stops healing, generates stress hormones. You’re literally hurting yourself by not teaching yourself how to not be offended by toxic positivity.
Even the person you’re talking to makes a difference, because I can say something to my friend and they won’t feel dismissed… but, if a stranger said the SAME THING, my friend would feel dismissed.
So, this is why it’s so important, with all the nuances, that you work on regulating yourself and don’t worry about everybody else.
I’ve lived both sides of the fence. I’ve been chronically ill my entire life and I used to be bothered by certain types of positive statements…
I used to let the opinions of other people in and it made everything harder for me. So, I’m going to teach you how not to do that.
This can be applied to literally every negative thing in your life, not just toxic positivity.
When someone says something to you that could get you in your feels, you can use a mindset strategy to help beef up your personal power and teach yourself how to not be affected by it.
Or, you can just stick in those hard, icky feels and hurt yourself.
You’re literally hurting yourself.
Getting on your own side means you don't do things that are bad for you. You always want to do things that are good for you - eat good things, drink good things, listen to and talk about and watch and read good things.
Anything can have a good side because in life, there’s always duality – when there’s good, there’s bad and when there’s bad, there’s good.
When you find yourself stuck in the suck and you can find anything to happy about, even if it’s just you’re grateful that your friend is sitting next to you – that’s a positive happy thought. It’s non-toxic, encouraging. It’ll encourage you to keep going.
If you need help getting on your own side, I wrote a book about it.
This book is 15 years of mindset strategies that helped me go from a reactionary to a happy person, despite nine disabling disorders.
If you want to get Day One of the book for free – just text me GET DAY ONE to 805-870-9740 and I’ll email it to you.
To buy the book from me and get the companion magnets, click here: How To Be On Your Own Side. There is also a link to the Amazon listing on that page.
#toxicpositivity #lifehacks #mindsetstrategy #happymatters #DailyDoseofDawn
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Make yourself immune to toxic positivity - Daily Dose # 9
How can positivity be toxic and what can you do about it?
This is something I’m really passionate about and what I'm going to tell you might just change your life.
The only way for positivity to be toxic is if it's used to dismiss you or minimize what you're going through.
However, just like 'no one can make you feel inferior without your consent' no one can make you feel dismissed without your consent.
Hear me out – if someone said, go fly around the room, you’d have no problem dismissing that. So, you can teach yourself to respond to toxic positivity in a way that gives you back your power.
Every feeling you’ve ever had came from inside of you. When you feel dismissed – turn it back on them.
How do you do that? For me, I saw them as “blind” or “with blinders on” – they are just INCAPABLE of seeing what you see. You have more sight than they do.
Imagine you had the vision of a hawk. You know no one can see as far or as clearly as you can.
Imagine you're driving in a car and you say "wow, look at that cow!" and they're like "what cow? there's no cow."
So, you just sit there patiently until you get closer and then they're like, "Oh, look, a cow!" as you roll your eyes.
THAT is easy to understand, right?
Now transfer that to this experience you're having of someone who can't see the emotional cow yet.
"If I say, my lifelong health issues have cost me 7 of my teeth." and the person says, "at least you still have the rest of them!"
Instead of hurting my own body by getting mad or feeling dismissed about it, I think to myself –
I hope you never know for yourself just exactly what it means to go through what I'm going through. I don’t even bother to say it – because it’s enough that I know.
See their inability to give you proper empathy as a shortcoming in their social skills, in the evolution of their humanity - because that's what it is!
That might sound kinda rude but if you think about it, it’s true.
Everyone is doing the best they can with where they’re at.
This helps me with everything in life – to know that people aren’t sucking on purpose – they just don’t know better.
It takes a lot of PRACTICE to get here. It didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen. And that means it can happen for you too.
I'm living proof that you can be immune to toxic positivity by using your own empathy as a shield and understanding that it is not your limitation to hold your hand through it and take your power back. #empowerment #toxicpositivity #mindsetstrategy #happymatters #DailyDoseofDawn
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Avoiding toxic people with good boundaries Daily Dose # 10
A closed mouth gathers no feet.
If you've ever put your foot in your mouth, that phrase makes a lot more sense.
I wear a size 10 shoe and the visual on that really helps me SHUT MY DAMN MOUTH lol.
As we head into the weekend, I wanted to tell you that you don't owe anyone your story.
If you don't want to talk about what you're doing, or how you're feeling, or if you've done that thing that people keep bugging you to do - there's no rule that says you have to.
Once i met a psychic lady and she told me I could ask her anything i wanted - I asked - how do I avoid people barfing their drama over me?
She said, just excuse yourself. Isn't that rude, I asked, won't that hurt their feelings?
She asked, why are their feelings more important than yours?
After 40 some years of people-pleasing - i had never thought about it that way before.
If sharing something with someone is gonna force you to do mental gymnastics or interfere with your physiology as i mentioned yesterday - then choose YOU.
Excuse yourself. Change the subject or if you really want to be full of personal power just simply say 'i don't want to talk about that.' period. NO is a complete sentence!
#boundaries #toxicpeople #mindsetstrategy #happymatters #DailyDoseofDawn
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