People Please Yourself | #74
People please yourself – #74 Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn 🌞
People pleasing often isn’t about kindness—it’s about fear. In Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn #74, Dawn Super explores what it really means to stop people pleasing by learning how to please yourself first. Drawing from personal experience, this post looks at self-worth, codependency, and why prioritizing other people’s comfort over your own can quietly drain you. You’ll learn how getting on your own side changes relationships, boundaries, and the way you show up for others—without guilt or self-abandonment.
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People please yourself. This is the Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn number 74, videos designed to expand your thinking.
As a reformed people pleaser, I can tell you that the secret to stopping people pleasing is realizing that you need them to be pleased more than you need yourself to be pleased.
There are a couple of reasons why you might do that. I did it because I didn't have enough self-worth. There were a lot of things about being a human being that I just didn't understand, and once I finally got on my own side, I stopped worrying so much about pleasing other people and focused a little bit more on making sure I was pleased. And then it was a lot easier to do things for other people.
Another thing that really helped me with this was an innocent conversation I had with a psychic lady. I asked her, “Hey, how do I keep people from barfing their drama all over me?” And she said, “Just excuse yourself.” And I said, “Isn't that rude? Don’t they need someone to talk to?” And she said, “Why are their feelings more important than yours?”
When we look at people pleasing, you have to apply the same lens. Ask yourself: am I doing this for this person because I love them and I want to do it, or am I doing this for this person because I’m afraid they might leave me if I don’t or get mad at me if I don’t? And if that's the answer, that is straight-up people pleasing and codependent.
I'm no therapist, but I can tell you it’s not good for you. I go into this a lot deeper in my book, How to Be on Your Own Side. If you haven’t gotten it yet, you can get it on my website or on Amazon.
I didn't really succeed in any of this personal growth stuff until I fully got on my own side, and most of my life I didn't even realize I wasn’t on my own side.
From the cradle to the grave, you are the only constant. There’s not one person who can be with you for the entire journey, and understanding that really helped me process people coming into my life and people going out of my life.
So don’t people please anyone. Stop treating yourself like there’s a replacement. There isn’t. You're it. This is it. This is all we get.
If you want to go deeper, you can get day one of my book delivered to your inbox, learn the benefits of staying calm, and you might also want to become a no-drama llama like me. It makes the inside feel so much better when you can go through life feeling calm and on your own side. https://howtobeonyourownside.com/getdayone
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