How To Stay Authentically Yourself When Life Is Hard to Talk About, Much Less Live 🌞

Authenticity is your values on display — but staying true to who you are when everything inside your life is chaos is a skill that nobody teaches you. In this Daily Dose of Dawn, resilience coach Dawn Super shares her specific tips for remaining grounded in yourself through hard times, faulty meatsuits, and people who simply don't understand why being yourself isn't negotiable. When your words, thoughts, and actions align, life gets easier — even when it's still hard. Here's how to get there and stay there.

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What goes on in your mind defines who you are. I'm sharing my tips for staying authentically who you want to be — while living a life that's hard to talk about, much less live.

Thinking about your thinking is defined as the highest form of intelligence. They call it metacognition. I call it surviving Tuesday. If that's something you want to think about for a few minutes, welcome in to your daily dose of Dawn at Dawn — videos designed to expand your thinking.

I like to keep clear definitions. To me, authenticity is essentially your values on display. Being the you that you want to present to the world, no matter what chaos or difficult things you might be dealing with inside of yourself. It's coming on here and doing a video even if I'm mad at someone for something or disappointed for any reason. It's not making other people pay because you're processing something.

What makes you you? What takes away from you being you? Knowing yourself is the key to all wisdom. That's like... ancient.

When your words match your thoughts match your actions, you're living in alignment with who you authentically are. Getting into that flow doesn't happen automatically. And it doesn't happen to you. It happens through you. It happens when you face adversity and you take the lesson and let the yuck go.

What does that look like in real life? It looks like you stop waiting for them to get their pay, to get their due, to have their turn. Holding grudges, beating yourself up for — well, anything. When you know yourself truly, no one can tell you who you are. And if you accept that you're a human being, you know you're going to make mistakes. So why beat yourself up for anything?

You stop needing to defend yourself because you don't really care what anyone else thinks. It's not ignoring the opinions of others, Doris. It's just not taking it on if someone's judging you.

Your brain gives you data and you decide what to do with it. That's self-trust and it's developed by trusting yourself and it goes well. But while the data is coming in and it's giving you feels, it's important to assign that data correctly. When meanings are filtered through peace, you get more nervous system regulation to help you deal with the adversity. When your nervous system is regulated, you get more healing and you get more energy.

Loving yourself and embracing what makes you you. Are you kind and funny and loving and all those good things? When you don't let anyone — or your circumstances — distract you from that, life becomes a little easier. Even if you're dealing in a faulty meatsuit.

Okay, here are some specific tips.

Number one — remember that you're allowed to be yourself. That it's encouraged. We're all completely unique for this reason.

Two — be prepared to comfort yourself through dealing with people who don't understand tip number one. Which is a lot of people.

Tip number three — by staying true to you, you make it okay for others to do so. Also especially when you disagree without trying to change their mind.

Number four — keep company with people who love the real you. If you have not been the real you, start with that.

Five — be willing to lose people, especially if you disagree on fundamental things that put you at odds with each other.

From this day forward, promise yourself that you're going to choose whatever makes it easier to regulate your nervous system.

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