Dose 15 People Pleasing
āDon't be a doormat.ā - Dawn Super
How I stopped people-pleasing ā Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn # 15
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OK ā people-pleasing. Do you do it? Are you working on not doing it?
Hereās now-meās perspective on people-pleasingā¦
The biggest reason people do not use boundaries is because theyāre afraid of the way the other person will react.
For me, it was the same with people-pleasing. I felt like I needed to do the things so the people wouldnāt leaveā¦ yeah thatās what anxious avoidant attachment can do to you.
The good news is, you can practice. You can try things, strategies, to overcome it. Thatās what I did. It took a fricken year, but I did it.
I go into this way deeper in my coaching but one perspective that should help you right away is asking yourselfā¦
Am I doing this because I want to? Or am I doing this thing because Iām afraid theyāll (leave, break up with me, get mad at me, cause a problem) if I donāt?
If I looked at it and realized I was afraid, I would ask myself ā is that true? Would they (leave, break up, get mad) if I donāt do this thing for them?
Admitting to myself that it wasnāt true - they would NOT break up or get mad if I told them, āNo,ā I wouldnāt do the thingā¦ made it a lot easier for me to NOT do the thing.
Admitting to myself they would leave, get mad, break up if I didnāt do the thingā¦ helped me let them GO.
Reading personal growth stuff like this and doing all this work helps you feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, you feel better inside of yourself.
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