Dose 12 Discernment
âBe a good chooser.â - Dawn Super
Are you a croissant? Daily Dose of Dawn at dawn # 12
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Iâm not talking about your posture â but I love that visual and it does help me sit up straighter.
Today I want to talk about layers and how understanding how many you have helps you become a better chooser.
What does that mean? First, letâs look at Discernment. The ability to perceive, understand, and judge things, especially those that are not obvious, with clarity and insight. Essentially it means, being a better chooser.
OK, back to the layers. Each time you deal with anything, you put it through the âfilterâ of your past experiences â we all do that. Some of us have had bad experiences, some of us have had a lot of bad experiences and that adds up to a lot of layers.
This was highlighted for me in my narcolepsy group when talking about shutdown statements. After 40 years of chronic illness, people always try to be helpful. Iâll work with it to a point and then I just have to shut them down or thatâs all we will discussâŚ
So, itâs like:
Their statement reached several layers for me:
Do you think Iâm stupid and donât know that, didnât try that?
I donât need you to fix me
And more, you get the point.
If youâre not living with chronic illness itâs hard to imagine but when every single person you communicate with has 10 different ideas for you⌠it can get a little draining. Even though theyâre trying to be helpful.
Ad thatâs why you have to go through your layers. So that you show your appreciation for their helpfulness, but also let them know you got your life under control, you know?
Paying attention to what layers things are hitting for me, helps me process my emotions FASTER and gets me through hard feels that donât have a place in my now reality.
Like if someone is trying to be helpful and that reminds me of a not so good relationship I had in the past, thatâs another layer that I have to go through to process whatâs actually happening right now.
As we go through life, we learn lessons. Being mindful of your layers, helps keep you from having to repeat the lessons. Donât hurt yourself. Be discerning. Be a good chooser. Decide from your now, not past.
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